Our Adoption Journey!

A journal of our thoughts, feelings and steps in the process of adopting a child with significant special needs.

Friday, April 29, 2011

If I were in their shoes....

If it were me, placing my special needs child for adoption.....

I would want in a family for my child







Why I think we would be an ideal family for this child:

Our children are everything to us, family is #1. We have a child already with Cerebral Palsy, we have been through it, we own a house that is already wheelchair accessible, we bought our house in one of the best school districts in the USA for children with disabilities and our son has thrived at his school, which his siblings also get to attend with him. We have great access here to some of the best rehabilitative services, neurology, physical medicine, movement clinic, feeding/nutrition clinic, gastroenterology, orthotic specialists, wheelchair clinics, wonderful Physical, Occupational and Speech therapists as well as alternative therapies like hippotherapy which I can't say enough about, aquatic therapy, music therapy. We are looking into cord blood stem cell therapy when it is finally allowed with a sibling donor, hyperbaric oxygen therapy availability. We have hope and the tenacity to chase it. Ethan's doctors didn't hold much hope for him, but in his almost 10 years he has accomplished A LOT, he has been involved in the American Rabbit breeders association and shown his rabbits at numerous state events and won many awards, he is a cub scout, he has helped many children have a wonderful christmas by using his own christmas money to buy presents for them when they were in the hospital, homeless, parentless or experiencing extreme economic difficulty. Because he knows what is like to have to spend time in a hospital, he has organized book and toy drives for Andrea's Closet instead of birthday presents. I am so very proud of the person my son has become, he has touched lives in a way most children can't. He is always happy, and while I do think it is his nature, I would like to think that we as parents had something to do with that. We think special needs children are amazing. As a stay at home mom, I devoted a considerable amount of time to doing therapy at home and I think this has had a big impact on what Ethan is able to do today. Ethan has recently started to articulate speech well enough for some of his words to be understood, which has been incredibly empowering to him. In the last year he gained an incredible amount of freedom through the use of a power wheelchair, which he controls with his head, in much the same way as he controls his horse when he is riding by turning his head in the direction he wants to go. It makes me very sad to think of the children like Ethan who don't have a family like us or a family at all. I think that if it had been Ethan, in an institution, where doctors said he should be, that he probably would not be alive today. I can't imagine a world without him in it....he has impacted so many lives for good, I know I am a better person because of him. I also know that we could be that family for another child....and that child would not only have two devoted parents, but the uncoditional love and support of two sisters and two brothers. And that is just the type of family I would want for my child if I were in their shoes!!!!